[JKG]

So, I have pretty much decided to sell my jeep SRT and my boat to raise money to buy a V wagon. It is irrational, but I really want one and it is now or never. I work hard - 60+ hours a week, am honest and faithful and take good care of the wife and kids. By anyone's measure, I probably have earned the right to do this. I have a few other 'toys' in the garage too.

But, wife is opposed. Why waste money, you don't need it, etc. Kind of takes the fun out of it. My wife is not subject to guilt or logic. or compassion. Any suggested strategies to get the new car? buying her a gift at the same time probably won't work. she has a new jeep wrangler already. divorce is too expensive. feel free to offer advice.

 

[Topless vette]

you could mention, it could be a nive V for us, or a girlfriend for me. not sure that will fly tho.
:duck:

 

[JKG]

no, she will tell me to get the girlfriend, and she will get the lawyer and the house, etc. my wife is not evil, but she is far too experienced at this , and far too cynical/jaded/indifferent to fall for empty threats.

 

[V2 BRAWN]

Hoo boy, I went through that for years with my wife. She finally gave up after a while. Now she says, do what you want because you're going to anyway. I feel for you. There's no way to rationalize a V and you probably wouldn't want it if you could. Good luck

 

[Chuck]

no, she will tell me to get the girlfriend, and she will get the lawyer and the house, etc. my wife is not evil, but she is far too experienced at this , and far too cynical/jaded/indifferent to fall for empty threats.

I just sold my '04 V and my beloved '99 4,000 mile Trans Am to buy a '12 V Coupe. For some reason, my wife was on board with it. I had to agree to do my own ironing from now on. A small price to pay I thought. I also always say "I've never seen a hearse with a luggage rack" so you might try that. Good luck!

 

[JKG]

who is going to be in the hearse? me or her? i'm not sure I can really win either way...

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The bottom line is that, while I probably will end up with the car, she will take all the fun out of it. buying a new car is one of the few joys the working married dad can really get. Pleasures of the bedroom have long since gone, so need to find some fun somewhere - why not the garage?
When I got a good deal on my dream car, a 57 chevy, a few years ago, she said 'no' until finally she heard me tell the seller sincerely that i could not do it because my wife would not let me. she felt bad and changed her mind, but really took all the fun out of it again. oh well. maybe the single guys out there will learn from me, and those who are lucky enough to have supportive spouses will appreciate what they have.

 

[vfaninva]

First thing, NUT UP!
I have been married (mostly happy) 28 years, raised two sons, and have been a responsible, productive member of our society. Like you I lusted over a CTS V coupe. When I told my wife I was getting one she said I didn't need one. I agreed and got one anyway. Guess what, she got mad and got over it. I love my wife and loves me. You got this life, enjoy it!

 

[1997BlackETC]

wow, sometimes I'm glad I'm single and then other times it gets lonely, so I guess the old saying holds true that "you can't live with em and you can't live without em". I guess just be honest with her and tell her we only live once and this is something I've wanted for a long time.

 

[pat2t2f]

Would she care that the resale value on a wagon will be pretty good and, if the stop making them, it will be even better? Your wife must have some habit or hobby that costs money. Can you bring that up? Good luck. It's an awesome car

 

[Chuck]

who is going to be in the hearse? me or her? i'm not sure I can really win either way...

That means "you can't take it with you".

 

[neuronbob]

If you raise enough money by selling your SRT and your boat, there is no financial argument against a V wagon. I use that logic on my wife frequently because I generally fund my purchases by selling something else, minimizing the hit on my family and me.

You can also argue that you are clearing space in the garage by combining two toys into one. Worked on my wife as well.

Just use psychology on her, just as she is doing on you.

My V wagon purchase was just as irrational as yours--my V sedan was paid off for some time when I decided to take on this (much smaller payment than the first time because of good value on old car) new purchase.

 

[Trapspeed]

Seriously, buy it. What's she really going to do? "Take the fun out of it?" Nonsense. The fun happens in the car without her in it!! It's a win-win! As was said, life's too short. Go for it brother. Look on the bright side. If you have to you can sleep in it if you have to bail!

 

[KellyE]

Next time you guys are having a fun moment, bring up the car, tell her this is what you want and you hope to have her blessing. Leave it for a while then take her with you and go to the dealer. For me, when I saw the happiness this car brought to my husband’s eyes, well this is our second V…. It is now my DD….His on the weekends…lol:cloud9:

 

[marcusp23]

My advice is that you take your time and make sure your wife is on board with the purchase. Otherwise it will become a continuous source of contention between the two of you.

 

[SoCalCTSV]

Does she work?

No - tell her tough shit

Yes - tell her its your money (unless you need hers to pay for it)

The end

 

[staflyr]

It's posts like these that make me appreciate being single. I work my a$$ off and whenever I feel the need to buy myself a toy, there's no negotiations with uncompromising females. I don't get women sometimes. They are eager and don't think twice about taking half your $h!t in a divorce but the moment you want to reward yourself with a man toy, it becomes a congressional issue. I say go get yourself a V. You work hard, you deserve it. Life is too short.

 

[DCV]

Buy the V and go have an affair too. Just not with her best friend...

 

[Thunder Gray STS]

She's bound to have an Achilles heel...shoes, purses, clothes, something. If she doesn't you've married Mary Poppins.

Anyway, good luck! Hopefully we won't see you on the 6 o'clock news.

 

[SoCalCTSV]

I just don't get the pussification of men these days. My buddy got married 5 years ago. He and his wife EACH got $1 MM from their parents. They put in $500k each toward a house. He works. She doesn't. His mother gives him a side $50K for toys and his wife won't let him buys toy. He bitches and moans. The precedence was set when he asked her permission.

I work. My wife doesn't. She lives a great life and gets what she wants. In addition to my V, I have a 66 Chevelle. She has atop of the line Range Rover Evoque. She gets a new lease every three years. What ever she wants. We are financially responsible and my annual income covers the purchase price of both cars several times over.

If you're not putting money into retirement, have credit card debt, no money for kids college and you wanna buy this car, I can understand your wife's concern. Good luck!

 

[DCV]

His mother gives him a side $50K

What kind of grown man takes 50K from his mom for cars? That's pretty NOT being grown up. As for the OP, the car argument is just masking a deeper down issue of resentment, I bet they fight about other things as well..the car is just hinge. Glad I did not get married and realized long ago that I was just not cut out for it.