Back with pictures!
I found the restrictor and ended up breaking it in the process. When looking at the engine from the front, the restrictor is in the left leg of the T.
Hoses disconnected, obviously.
Here is a close up inside the LEFT leg of the T:
As you can see by the picture below, the restrictor is in the T but also extends inside of the hose.
Now I need to find out the part number and get a new one ASAP.
The restrictor was in there and intact before I broke it, so I really don't think this is the cause of my heating problems. Anyone have any other ideas?
So far I've ruled out the doors behind the glovebox, the heater core, possibly the restrictor and the flow of coolant in general. I don't know where to go from here other than have a mechanic look at it and rape me out of money.