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pimpridein · #61 (**permalink**) 03-19-08, 06:47 PM

Man that really sucks . My advice is to try to find 1 new friends 2 someone to talk to ( mom dad bro sis pastor or counsler at school ). You seem to be a good guy and she will get hers coming ( KARMA ) . Better to find out now than get married and have it happen then . Good luck and don't let some dumb ho hold you down.

AMGoff · #62 (**permalink**) 03-20-08, 01:56 PM

Wow... I realize this was originally posted some two weeks ago now, so hopefully time has at least numbed some of the more stinging, superficial wounds. To be honest, I couldn't be bothered to read through all seven pages of comments, so bear with me if I happen to repeat something that's already been said.

While I know you've probably heard this several times and hated it each time you've heard such, the fact remains you are still so young - that has both it's own unique drawbacks as well as benefits.

The biggest drawback is one that's completely relative to you, in that being so young, two years with someone equates to a tenth of your entire life... which is a lot. Because of which I can totally empathize with your sense of loss. The benefit however, is that you have way more years to go than you've already covered. Beyond that... you're lucky in the fact that you're basically coming out of this with no less than you came into it with, to the contrary - you're actually coming out ahead. You're lucky that there were no kids, no house, no life that you've built with this girl... so you've got to take from it what you can, and that is a valuable life experience.

I don't know what you lied to her about exactly, but to be honest I don't think it really had all that much to do with it. She was obviously looking for an out and just used that as a timely excuse. That right there shows just the kind of person she really is - she wanted out but she didn't have the decency nor scruples to put it on herself, so not only did she dick you over but she also put it on you, without any regard to what torment it might cause you - that's almost as low as they come.

But that's not the lowest... there's a special place in hell for people like your "friend."

Let me tell you... he was never a friend. If he truly was your friend, such a thoughts would have never crossed his mind. He was thinking, and planning, and doing things well before everything exploded. He was and is concerned with one person - and that's himself.

Why would you want to surround yourself with such people?

If nothing else, you can take solace in knowing that things won't last long between them. Either she's going to dick him over as well, or vice-versa. I don't know what your relationship is with the rest of your friends, but the last thing you should do is cut yourself off from them. If they did nothing to you, then why abandon them? I'm pretty sure they already see what kind of person this other guy is... and if they have significant others of their own, they're going to be watching him very closely.

Live and learn... that's all we as humans can do. Without the former, the latter isn't possible - and without the latter, we're bound to repeat the same mistakes.

As soon as you realize you're better off, the sooner things get a whole lot better a whole lot quicker... but the only one who can make you realize such is yourself. As patronizing as that may sound, it's the truth. Bottom line is - these sort of people aren't worth putting yourself through any of this, and by doing so you're only helping them hurt yourself even more.

F-'em.

**DopeStar 156** · #63 (**permalink**) 03-20-08, 04:45 PM

Thanks everyone, things are good though. There's a girl at the moment, It seems to be going well but I'm not saying anything just yet......

pimpridein · #64 (**permalink**) 03-20-08, 06:03 PM

Good for you move on and don't let that Bitch hold you down

DILLIGAF · #65 (**permalink**) 03-20-08, 07:55 PM

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Originally Posted by DopeStar 156

Thanks everyone, things are good though. There's a girl at the moment, It seems to be going well but I'm not saying anything just yet......

Awesome news Dope!Best way to get over a girl is getting a different girl under you asap!

**DopeStar 156** · #66 (**permalink**) 03-20-08, 10:22 PM

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Originally Posted by DILLIGAF

Awesome news Dope!Best way to get over a girl is getting a different girl under you asap!

Over, actually....

xshrpshtr · #67 (**permalink**) 03-20-08, 11:12 PM

Dude...Out of nowhere I just met easily THE best woman I have ever dated. We are hitting it off nicely and I am just beside myself at how wonderful/kind/thoughtful...etc. She is. I am no fool. I can read contrition before they even try it. This one is the real deal. I have all fingers and toes crossed.

Stoneage_Caddy · #68 (**permalink**) 03-27-08, 07:00 PM

Bump ..

Dope , you ok buddy ? explain the myspace thing ....

**DopeStar 156** · #69 (**permalink**) 03-27-08, 11:56 PM

I'm great. Still seeing the same girl and things get better each time we hang out.

Which MySpace thing?

ejguillot · #70 (**permalink**) 03-28-08, 07:21 PM

Good to hear you met someone new, and good luck!

Sandy · #71 (**permalink**) 03-28-08, 09:30 PM

Yo, Dope, remember me? Millburn, NJ ?

Think of a girlfriend as a dove. You set her free, and she flies away...
if she returns, she's yours;
if not....she never was!

Find Another, or better yet, buy another Caddy !!

Stoneage_Caddy · #72 (**permalink**) 03-29-08, 06:44 PM

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Originally Posted by DopeStar 156

I'm great. Still seeing the same girl and things get better each time we hang out.

Which MySpace thing?

the bulletin ....can be taken the wrong way by people like me who are a little high strung and alot polish ....

**DopeStar 156** · #73 (**permalink**) 03-29-08, 09:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Sandy

Yo, Dope, remember me? Millburn, NJ ?

Think of a girlfriend as a dove. You set her free, and she flies away...
if she returns, she's yours;
if not....she never was!

Find Another, or better yet, buy another Caddy !!

How could I forget the legend? She is set free and if she flies back I'll slam the ****ing window......

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Originally Posted by Stoneage_Caddy

the bulletin ....can be taken the wrong way by people like me who are a little high strung and alot polish ....

The MySpace bulletin was pretty much like, "We broke up, if you wanna ask us about it feel free." Personally at the time I wasn't in the mood for the 20 interview messages I got about it and was pissed off that she went ahead and posted our personal business on the internet. As if to say, "Hey guys, shackles are off, come take me."

By the way, at this point in time, the two have joined together in unholy roachery. They're official now.......