: Spyder's life.



Spyder
09-29-08, 03:01 PM
Eh, a few of you know what I've been going through for the last few weeks.

For those who don't, it boils down to a parting of ways between my wife and I. She wasn't happy and needs to be. Because she wasn't happy I wasn't getting what I need out of us. Time apart was our plan but it quickly went to no more relationship.

Lots lots LOTS more to say on this whole thing and maybe one day I'll get around to putting my thoughts and feelings down so you folks can criticize, laugh, poke fun, advise, etc etc etc.

Now the good stuff.

I need ALL the positive energy I can get for the next couple of days. Send me whatever you have. I've got an interview with California Fish and Game in four and a half hours and I am in desperate need of getting a real job that makes real money and works real hours and that will get me the hell out of this town. It may take me to San Diego, San Luis Obispo or Santa Barbara as those were my first 9 choices that I requested as an assignment. I need to get out of where I'm at before I go crazy and this will solve all of my life problems...so I'm hoping like hell that I'm able to pull it off. I feel very confident about it, actually, but every little bit helps.

I'll keep ya'll posted of it tonight. Well, maybe not tonight, 'cause I'll likely be celebrating or crying, but soon enough I'll get back to the forum and let everyone know what's going on.

nickc50310
09-29-08, 04:20 PM
Hang in there bro!! Life has its ups and downs! Things will always get better!!!


Dont forget a saying I think of a lot in life when I feel down- "down take life too seriously, nobody makes it out alive anyway"

Rolex
09-29-08, 04:31 PM
Hang in there my friend. I used to pray that my old high school sweetheart and I would marry. We split after 4 years and I felt heartbroken and helpless for a long time. Now I don't know what I'd have done with myself if we had stayed together. My life turned out a hell of a lot better without her. I didn't know until well after the fact that she was dragging me down, because I was always happy with her. Sometimes unanswered prayers are the best prayers of all. Life has a way of working shit out.

Best of luck on our interview. Take care of yourself.

dkozloski
09-29-08, 08:09 PM
There's always the French Foreign Legion. The first enlistment is only five years.

creeker
09-29-08, 09:41 PM
There's always the French Foreign Legion. The first enlistment is only five years.

Did you sign up again after your first five years?.

firstimecaddi
09-29-08, 10:26 PM
when you go to the job interview, don't let it show how badly you want the job. Be confident and crisp with your responses. Don't ask about vacation time or days off. Dress sharp, grays and blues won't fail you ( if they are not already, have them pressed and creased) and no cologne. Take care of your hygiene, CLIP YOUR FINGERNAILS and polish your shoes. Hell at least clean them. Carry something in your hand, a briefcase even if it only contains one copy of your resume or something more suitable, hell even a book. Speaking of resumes, if you carry one make sure it is up to date with name, address, contact information. Phone number (land line) and email.

SILENCE YOUR CELL PHONE all I can think of off top.

Destroyer
09-29-08, 10:41 PM
Go to the interview..........AND KICK ASS!. :alchi:

Ranger
09-29-08, 10:45 PM
Best of luck to you.

dkozloski
09-29-08, 10:48 PM
They say business is booming for repo men.

gdwriter
09-30-08, 12:18 AM
Good luck on the interview, James, and keep us posted.

This month marks three years since my divorce was final. I can honestly say I don't miss my ex-wife in the slightest. Painful as it was, she did me a favor by leaving. We were absolutely miserable together, and while I can't speak for her, I'm much better off now. It may take some time, but you'll heal.

Spyder
09-30-08, 12:19 AM
Ass kicking accomplished. Conditional offer, as long as I pass the eye exam, physical exam, physical abilities test and psychological exam. We'll see.

I feel good about that part of my life.

Rolex. Thanks man. I understand that and I'm pretty sure it IS going to be that way, but it still f'ing blows. It seems like EVERY time I get something amazing or do something amazing or accomplish something great and big and huge, its always dampered by me being alone...and usually recently so. It sucks. I've recently realized just how much I love sharing my experiences with someone close to me...my wife, its been for a while now... But now I really have no one to share this with. Makes it kind of bittersweet and almost empty feeling. I was freaking ecstatic and happy as hell until I called to tell her, now I feel like shit.

Anyway, the job is most likely a go. Academy starts on the 12 of January. I'm going to probably quit all my jobs on the 1st of December so I can enjoy life for a little while. Relax, work on the car, get some shooting done, visit friends and family, do what I can to enjoy a month of James time. I'll keep ya'll posted on how things are going.

I~LUV~Caddys8792
09-30-08, 12:24 AM
It's only good news from here man!

RightTurn
09-30-08, 12:59 AM
Best of luck to you, Spyder. All 'Veterans of Broken Hearts' will tell you the same thing; time will take care of it. For now, concentrate on taking care of you and surround yourself with friends.

Ranger
09-30-08, 03:09 PM
CONGRATS Spyder! Keep positive. RT is right. Time heals all wounds. Another (and better) woman will come along sooner than you think.

Spyder
10-01-08, 01:58 AM
And an update on the job...I passed all the physical stuff today and took the drug test...which I have no reason to not pass. All that is left is the psych test on Thursday, which I've passed the DEA test so I'm assuming I'll be fine here. After all, the DEA issues you an MP5 and a helicopter as a cadet! =]

Submariner409
10-01-08, 07:01 PM
Spyder, Why don't you get the heck out of CA and come East.......Maryland is looking for good Natural Resources Police and Rangers. The Chesapeake Bay is a drop dead gorgeous place to be in the Fish & Game business.

PatrickHMS
10-02-08, 12:20 AM
CONGRATS Spyder! Keep positive. RT is right. Time heals all wounds. Another (and better) woman will come along sooner than you think.

Time heals all wounds, and time wounds all heels.

There must be some kind of big checklist way up there in the sky, because I believe that sooner or later we all get what we deserve, be it good OR bad.

Hang in there, things will eventually turn in your favor.

What tears you up right now, you will someday see as a minor obstacle when you find out why this happened as it is, so you can get to where you are supposed to be in the future. Can't get there then without going through this now.

Best of luck.

FrankT
10-15-08, 09:44 PM
Spyder,
Hope you're doing better, congrats on the job:thumbsup:
From one mopar man to another, here's a pic of my mopar, hope it cheers you up some. Take care
http://www.sebringclub.net/board/download/file.php?id=820

Spyder
10-15-08, 11:04 PM
Ha. Sweet.

I actually spent a little time yesterday and today working on mine. Finally figured out my transmission crossmember problem...its not "right" but it works. Had to use an A body one and make it work.

And I finally got around to putting a few accessories on the front of the engine. Once I get all the crap bolted on, I'll be able to start doing some wiring, some initial timing, some hose-running and hopefully some sparking of spark and burning of fuel!

Destroyer
10-15-08, 11:10 PM
It's only good news from here man!
Not necessarily. Things may get worse too!. :alright: