I finally took the car in after it spent a month in paint/powdercoat. The culprit was the clutch plates bevelled washers. Both were shattered but still in place except for the one piece. My dealer also said the pos track was not disengaging thus explaining my avanced rear tire wear. Clutch plates and washers were replaced no questions ask. (My dealer rocks)
The car is now smooth and quiet. Wow what a difference in how it feels.
On the way home I noticed all the TC modes were working except the competitive driveing mode. The Nav system was replaced due to yes you guessed it, peeling buttons. Could the driving mode just not be showing up or is it something else?